I have lots of e-mails from her and we have also chatted on the phone (obviously) when I offered her some free coaching.

But here’s the deal. I’m not going to go into details, but I could have defended myself a lot more aggressively, by publishing that stuff, but I didn’t and I wont. The vitriol that spewed forth from her purely because I explained what I meant and that I think taking offense is a choice, was staggering, especially from a lady that called me an animal.

When things like that happen, talent goes out of the window.

I’m here to have fun. I love writing, I love making myself and others laugh and my blog is primarily for fun. Even on Twitter, 95% of my posts are jokey and involve interactions with others, every now and then I’ll mention a new post of mine, but that’s a secondary purpose for me.

I don’t make any money from my blog other than some book sales the occasional client. I admit I’d like to, but it is down my list of priorities and it will have to happen organically if at all.

I’ve just had my best 2 months ever in coaching and for the last 2 weeks have been fully booked. I never spoke to Rita and said I needed comments, that is a complete fabrication and indefensible for her to say it. Mind you, it would have been indefensible even if it were true.

Yeh Rita is a talented writer we all know that, but is that sufficient?

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I miss Rita, too. That’s the whole reason for this post.

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I know a few of “those” bloggers, and have confronted a few who spew their poorly written content and expect everyone to treat it as gold. Unfortunately, there will always be bloggers who should stop blogging, but continue to clog up the Net with their drivel.

Rita’s talent is what will make her absence from out little circle of bloggers so devastating, but I agree that her writing a second book is definitely a terrific plus from this whole experience.

Thanks for stopping by!

I wrote a post earlier in the week about the whole carry on and how adding more people to a problem, or argument just makes it worse. But I decided not to publish it, incase it turned into one huge row, as it did on Writer Dad.

I feel responsible for a lot of the arguing going on. Barbara did say she reacted in the way she did because was upset by what some of the commenters had said, more than by Rita’s post – and I suppose one of those comments was mine.

What I actually said was, I didn’t thing we should be encouraging some bloggers to carry on blogging – especially those who admit they don’t even like writing. And I stand by that comment. I think it’s cruel to encourage folk to write when they truly suck at it. And the commenters who pretend to read their work are the worst of all.

Rita is an amazingly talented writer but putting her creative energy into a second book, is a smart decision.

I’d like to think that we’re both right.

Look lets just have a big old group hug…. but just watch those wandering hands (and I don’t mean mine).

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I SO get your point, it’s not funny. As a former member of the “I am ALWAYS right club”, I struggle with that too. My solution is to gloss over the whole “It’s my fault, your fault, the dog’s fault” part.

Thanks for taking the time to straighten me out, I appreciate it. It’s been a long day~ without caffeine. (Evil doctor woman says I need to cut back.)

I don’t think we can be more that a step away from our understanding of the situation here but I made it worse by trying to dance around a sensitive issue so as not to re-ignite the original conflict.

I totally understand the point you’re making. Had I taken more time I might have expressed it as you have just done.

What I said about forgiveness was a poor attempt to elicit from you the meaning of your statement: “…but I can say, “I can see this conversation has upset you. I am sorry, that was not my intention. Please forgive me for hurting for your feelings.”

What I’m trying to say, and bear with me I might get it slightly wrong again…, I can understand the first sentence, but I struggle with the second. The second seems to say… “even though I’m may be right, I’m willing to conceded the point just so that you don’t have to be upset…and more than that I’m going to make it my fault.”

It seems that I would be apologising for having an opinion that someone else doesn’t like, just to smooth things over.

Did I make that any clearer or did I just make it worse again? Probably worse?

OK, so even if you don’t understand my point, I do now understand yours. lol

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Thanks for stopping by. I am going to assume both of your comments are for Rita. She is likely still reading, but she assured me in an email that she is done commenting publicly.

That drinking Pixie Dust sounds like a good idea today. Wendi Kelly says we can all still fly. http://lifeslittleinspirations.com/high-flying-faith, maybe Pixie Dust would do the trick. It’s getting cold here in Ohio, I’d like to fly South, or at least West, like to Hawaii. Is that considered a business expense if I blog about it?