One of the biggest sticking points for me during the One Month to Live Challenge was how important compliments are. Compliments are the opposite of bitter criticism. They build us up, encourage us to press on, and provide road signs that direct our paths in life.
Peers, Cohorts, and the Human Nature
Yes, I realize that we are not school children who need the approval of peers or a hug from mommy to make it all better, but peer relationships do still matter. We rub off on each other. We mirror mannerisms and phrases of those we rub elbows with, both good and bad. You want to make the world a better place? Start building up others! It has a ripple effect.
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” ~ Maya Angelou
I struggle with this concept, as do many others I interact with in day to day life. Try telling a blogger they are truly talented, or a customer that they are appreciated without coming off as a sugar-sweet, drippy brown-noser, and you’ll see what I mean. Often, when we do offer a compliment, it comes in a form similar to the title of this post. We hide behind gruffness, sarcasm, or humor to save face. When did being genuinely nice become so uncool?
The the Un-Coolness Begin!
Well, in traditional Blue Duck style, I say the heck with coolness. If I like you or I think you did a good job, I’m gonna tell you about it. Conversely, if you’re sawing your own arm off without realizing it or you invade my personal space in a bad way, I’ll be sure to tell you that as well (in a constructive way, of course). We wouldn’t hesitate to point out grievances, mistakes, or flaws. So why overlook the good stuff?
“Make room for that which is capable of rejoicing, enlarging, or calming the heart.” ~ George Tersteegen
Back Up from the Bible
For you Christian writers and business owners out there:
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”~ Ephesians 4:29
We all need validation, encouragement, and love. So, here’s my first dose of Miracle Grow Compliments for my little blogging circle:
- Sean, your way with words amazes me. Thanks for helping others fall in love with life.
- David Wright, your dedication to family and sincerity are a rare gem in today’s world. But, your sense of humor could use a little work.. just kidding.
- Dave Fowler, your light hearted banter and wit brighten my time on the Net and give me hope that the world indeed is not all shadows and darkness.
- Wendi Kelly, your gentleness and joy exude from my monitor and make me look forward to another day of work. Thank you for your daily sunshine.
- Oktober 5, your wisdom, knowledge and talent are jaw dropping. In fact, some of your comments on this blog and others have haunted my thoughts for days. Thanks for challenging my thoughts and nurturing my soul with your talent.
- James and Harry, your passion, dedication, and unwavering focus are a constant source of inspiration for me.
- Matthew, your raw energy and intensity give your words power.
- Lance, when I read your words, it’s like putting on a warm sweater on a cold day. Your outlook is so similar to mine, sometimes it’s scary.
- Amy, your warmth and friendliness have been a welcome addition the the stark, clinical feel of working on the Net. Thanks for making an effort to roll out the welcome mat. Your efforts have not gone unnoticed.
- Dereck, your strength and transparency are a pillar for many. Never lose sight of that, my friend.
- Tessa, I envy your incredible faith and patience. Your quiet strength and bubbly personality make you darned near irresistible.
- Toni, girl, I could fill the page with your praises. In fact, I think I’ll put your words into an email. Thanks for being you.
This is not a misguided effort to increase traffic or fish for my own set of compliments, just a simple exercise in building a no regrets life. I will be closing comments for this post. Instead, take a few minutes and visit your favorite Blogopolis writer and compliment away!
